Reflection

Guest post by Margo Boster.

I recently presented a workshop to a group of fellow coaches at an International Coaching Federation meeting. I realized that my style, my approach, and my very message were not consistent with what most people did. Afterward, I had a moment of questioning myself: “Should I have been more of what they were expecting?”
Are you good enough? Compared to whom? Or are you the one who’s working with idiots? How do you value yourself in the workplace?
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The biggest constraint to shine and become happy and successful (to your own standards) is very often the inner critic. It’s the little voice in your head, saying: “Nah, you can’t do that. It won’t be good enough. They’ll see you’re a fraud. They’ll judge. Better stay away from this endeavor.”

It’s the little voice weakening you; it’s self-doubt and fear. With the best of intentions, this little voice tries to keep you safe and away from hurtful comments and harsh critics in the outer world.
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OD might stand for OverDose instead of Organization Development. Beware of the overdose…! If you want to make a difference, you need focus and presence. Because WHO you are, defines HOW you practice your expertise: the WHAT. If you are mindfully present, you’ll engage people. Nothing can make a difference but being present and connecting from who you are.

So: don’t spread yourself too thin! Don’t major in minor things… Focus on essentials and BE there – to lead and guide change.

Beware of OD – BE YOU!
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How well do you collaborate? Are you a team player? People have a natural tendency to work together and collaborate – as research shows. Cooperation is the basic driver of human civilization, explains Dirk Messner.

Collaboration needs feedback, now and then. Not everyone does everything right all the time. But how do you give feedback? Here’s my reflection on intentions, feedback, kindness, and humble inquiry. According to Schein, the awareness of interdependency is often missing in individualistic cultures: you need the others! You need to collaborate which means in my opinion: you need to be kind, have good intentions, and give your feedback “with love”. Schein stresses that we need to be humble and ask more.
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